Saturday, February 12, 2011

The lament of a young women among swine.

I am on my way to really disliking the male species.

I would like to believe that there are intentional males out there. If there are, then I pray to God that he at least make one known to me in one way or another that he EXISTS. I do not wish to lose hope.

It sounds to me as if there is major confusion out there among us young women. After talking with some of my girl friends last night, it became apparent that we are freaked out of our minds. We try to treat the polygamist college male as if he is monogamist, and when amazingly a monogamist male attempts to pursue us, we are suspicious that he is polygamist!! Is it the females fault? 

I do not wish to become one of those bitter women. When a male only attempts to contact you between 1 and 4 AM, what does he want? I don't pick up the bait, mainly because I AM ASLEEP!! But I wouldn't anyways because there are only three reasons why a boy would contact me in the wee hours of the morning:

A) He is asleep most of the day and those hours are when he is awake. 
-It may be true, but is this the sole reason he contacts me at this time? UNLIKELY. This is a sad attempt to give the boy the benefit of the doubt.

B) He is scared to text me during the day because he may actually get to talking to me.
- POSSIBLE. It is my understanding that some males are scared to talk to us females. So he contacts me when I am asleep so he doesn't actually have to talk to me, yet he lets me know that he thought of me at 3 AM? Its kinda laughable, but you what? Some people do this. Is it productive? Not really. 

C) He wants some Ass.
-LIKELY. If a male really wishes to get to know me, he would make it happen IN THE DAYTIME WHEN I AM ACTUALLY AWAKE! I have come to believe that the only reason why a male would message me at this time in the morning is in the OFF chance that I am up and sexually frustrated.

D) A combination of all the above.
-Also very likely. Nothing is black and white when it comes to this stuff. Some may not admit to all the above, but deep down it probably is a factor. 

Now, I must question this males intelligence if he continues to contact me FOR SIX MONTHS in such a manner and I do not take the bait. GET A HINT I'M NOT INTERESTED IN YOUR BOOTY CALL. I am tempted to just tell him to move along and quit wasting his precious text messages of "Hey baby" and "Heyyyy" on a female who is not interested to see what else he has to offer in the bedroom. If he puts as much effort in getting to know me as he would in satisfying me in bed, then I am DEFINITELY NOT INTERESTED. A smart man may figure that one out. 

Now I understand that this whole issue is not one that is new. This is the reality that women have faced for CENTURIES. However, its the way that women plays on this male weakness that empowers us to make the men feed out of the palm of our hand. 

One could view herself as the victim, or a worthy opponent. 

Now, I am not a promiscuous girl, but am I not prude either. I know that what I have to offer is some pretty valuable stuff. I do not, however, wish to cast my pearls among swine. Its not worth my time. I see some of my most precious friends do this, and I also see my most precious friends cry on my lap when they feel broken after. I wish to save myself from this fate and gently encourage my friends to do the same. Don't batter your heart up.

I don't want to miss out on a male who may be intentional because I am suspicious that he may be the opposite. I do not wish to punish such a man for the crimes that other men in my life have committed. 

So what is a girl to do? 

Date when you are ready, when you have healed.

Don't punish a boy for another boy's wrong doing unto you.

Don't be so naive to believe that every boy is intentional.


Trust God that he will put a good man in your life.

1 comment:

  1. Oh, sweet sister. . .I feel your pain. Just know that their are intentional, Godly men out there. But they are hard to find!

    For me it was dealing with the fact that all my friends were in a couple and I wasn't. Lots of lonliness, but lots of time to get closer to God, which is what it sounds like you are doing. Keep leaning on HIM because HE knows all, even where all the good men are!


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